Ten Commandments and Manav-dharm-shastra give way to kama-conscious India

From:  "jagbir singh" <www.adishakti.org@gmail.com>
Date:  Thu Dec 9, 2004  9:16 am
Subject:  The Ten Commandments and Manav-dharm-shastra give way to kama-conscious India

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shriadishakti@yahoogroups.com, boyini girish
<girish_1480@y...> wrote:
> jai shri mata ji,
> hai, i am girish . iam from india
> doing sy from one year.i have some doughts regarding
> the ten commandments.
> in one of the commandments init said that one
> should not coommit adultry that is sex should be only
> with your married partner. but in todays world of high
> competition it is impossible for a guy or a lady to
> get married till the age of 27 . my question is how is
> it possible for any one to abstain from sex tiill that
> age.
> if any one can send me a reply i will be thankful
> girish

That's a very good question Girish. Can someone answer this one?

Perhaps this Asia Times report title "India rediscovers kama" by
Sultan Shahin and "When sex gets out of the cupboard" by Siddharth
Srivastava destroys the myth that India is a land of religiously
prudish and spiritually moral people. India is indeed fast catching
up with the West in both artha (wealth creation) and kama (sensual
pleasure). All the more reason for the Adi Shakti to descend and
renew the dharma, the Great Event ordained for humanity.

Jai Shri Mataji,


India rediscovers kama

At the height of its civilization, India was the land of the Kama
Sutra, Koke Shastra, Ananga Ranga - the sacred literature teaching
ways and means of heightening sexual pleasure, not only with one's
own spouse, but also with other partners.

It was the land of Mahabharat, the greatest epic known to mankind,
where Lord Krishna, whose divine exhortations are contained in the
Bhagwad Gita, could be worshipped with his beloved Radha, who was
someone else's spouse, perhaps that of his maternal uncle. It was
the land of Khajuraho temples depicting copulating couples and
multiples on its inner walls that prudes consider pornographic. It
was the land of Kalidasa, one of the greatest Sanskrit poets who
celebrated sex with an openness unparalleled in world literature.

With its decline, for some obscure reason ascribed to a natural
cycle of the rise and fall of civilizations, India turned prudish
and guilt-ridden about free sex. The introduction of Islamic and
Judeo-Christian morality did not help. India ceased to be proud of
Khajuraho and Kalidas. Krishna and Radha were still worshipped
together, but children would not be told about their open illicit
love affair. Both kama (sensual pleasure) and artha (wealth
creation), the two essential aspects of the Indian way of life
(dharma) suffered. India ceased being itself.

But as artha was revitalized with the introduction of new economic
policies of liberalization and globalization and new technologies
such as computers and the Internet in the early 1990s, it seems now
that kama too has made a comeback. Perhaps the two go together.

Several sex surveys carried out recently point to a definite
resurgence of guilt-free extramarital sex, as much on the initiative
of women now as it was on the bidding of men before. Commenting on
the findings of the KamaSutra Cross Tab Sex Survey 2003, conducted
in association with Indiatimes, published on Thursday, sex expert
Prakash Kothari said, "One can easily kiss that crummy era goodbye.
A nation of 1 billion is getting sexy and kicking the guilt."
Psychiatrist Sanjay Chugh, MD, is jubilant: Finally, "it" is
happening in India.

Permissiveness is at an all-time high. Respondents across India
(Bangalore 27 percent; Chennai 28 percent; Delhi 22 percent;
Hyderabad 20 percent; Kolkata 32 percent; Mumbai 24 percent) feel
that both partners should be free to have extramarital sex with the
spouse's consent. Delhiites are most likely to have done it at a
younger age than their counterparts in other cities. Hyderabadis and
Mumbaikars show the maximum inclination to infidelity, summarized
Anubha Sawhney, breaking the news of the survey in Thursday's The
Times of India.

While the survey reveals that breasts are the No 1 sexual-arousal
point for Indian males, followed by overall looks and butts, the
Indian woman prefers good looks, eyes, and a muscular physique in
her man. Nationwide, experimentation is the name of the game.

Although the missionary position continues to be the preferred one
of couples engaging in sex, respondents to the survey reveal that
they are open to other options. As for the average age at which
Indians have their first experience of sex, figures indicate that
virgins are a dying breed.

There is no bar on age, time or place. Indians want sex again and
again. The Hyderabadis have sex 17.1 times a month. This is a
national record. Comparing the results of this survey with the
figures furnished by the Durex Global Survey, which accords top
position to the French for having sex 167 times a year, Sawhney
concludes that this could even be a world record.

This month the second-largest-circulated newsmagazine Outlook
carried out a survey in several Indian metros to come up with
similar results. Its correspondents interviewed sex specialists and
psychologists in Delhi, Mumbai, Kolkata, Chennai and Ahmedabad,
among other cities, to discover that in the business of sex now,
women are indeed on top, literally. Titled "Woman on top: Eves do it
too", the Outlook cover story on May 5 said: "It's not just Adam for
Madam. The Indian woman storms another male bastion as she seeks
sex - and solace - outside her marriage."

The authors of the story, Madhu Jain and Soutik Biswas,
concluded: "Adultery 2003 is really about women taking the lead.
It's also about adultery going middle-class, to small-town India,
going commonplace, even going boring. Dangerous liaisons used to be
for the aristos and the plebs. Those in between, the middle classes,
were tethered by moral chastity belts - only their fantasies could
roam freely. Or it was all within the family, the extramarital
dalliances, that is. The scarlet letter is now fading fast: stigma
is getting passe and guilt for an increasing number is no more than
a twitch.

"We are probably more adulterous now than ever before, with women
catching up with the men on the adultery stakes. Says D Narayana
Reddy, a sexologist and marital therapist in Chennai, 'I have been
practicing since 1982. In those days, my women clients would say a
strict No to anything outside marriage. By 1992, the attitude was
What's wrong if I did it? By 2002, they were daring to explore.'"

The real source of the massive urge for sexual exploration that
Indians, particularly women, have developed suddenly is as
mysterious as the reasons for the rise and fall of civilizations. But
one thing has come out clearly in the survey. New technology is an
important factor encouraging the phenomenon. Internet and
mushrooming cyber cafes have helped, as have mobile phones and SMS
(short message service) facilities. Women and men have suddenly
heard from old flames, childhood friends, former classmates, whom
they may have fancied once, dates have been fixed, and one thing has
led to another. In most cases straight, unembarrassed initiatives
have come from women, as men twiddled their fingers thinking of
creative ways of broaching the subject.

Wife swapping, relatively unknown in India until recently, has made
an appearance. Adventurous couples are advertising in newspapers
their desire to meet like-minded people for wife and husband

Indian cinema was known for its kid-glove treatment of female
sexuality. Indian woman being shown having sex outside marriage
would be considered unpatriotic. And if at all the heroine committed
that misdemeanor, premarital sex, she would have to try committing
suicide, only to be rescued by the hero and his parents agreeing to

Now in the age of cable television's soaps, nearly all the
characters in family dramas are shown as having pre- or extramarital
sexual relations; most marriages are shown to be illegal, in the
sense that the couple had been married before and not divorced. This
creates more room for the scriptwriters to push in intrigue and
blackmail, keeping families, including kids, glued to their
television sets throughout the evenings.

Vijay Nagaswami, a Chennai-based psychiatrist and author of
Courtship & Marriage: A Guide for Indian Couples, was quoted by
Outlook as saying that couples expect a healthy sex life and are
less inhibited about discussing their sexual experiences now. "Sex
is no longer a taboo word and more people, particularly women, are
more willing to talk sex with their partners."

India's sex guru Prakash Kothari, who heads the department of sexual
medicine at the Kem Hospital and the GS Medical College in Mumbai,
added: "Thirty years ago, I said most Indian men use their women as
sleeping pills. Today Indian women feel their sexual desires are
basic human rights, and they need to be respected."

Hyderabad-based andrologist and impotence expert Sudhakara
Krishnamurti told Outlook that a decade ago couples would come to
him after failing to consummate their marriages for 10-15 years.
Today wives often drag their husbands into the clinic within the
first week of their marriage. "With women being more demanding in
the bedroom, it puts a lot of pressure on normal guys," he said.

Even visitors from the liberated West are flummoxed. They have seen
nothing like this before. Carin Fisher, a German-American lawyer who
moved to New Delhi about a year ago, has been quoted as saying: "The
acceptance of adultery here was, and sometimes still is, quite
shocking to me. So many married men here tell me that even Krishna
cheated and that I am stuck in some sort of Judeo-Christian cultural
context. The god had a good time and he was not condemned for it,
they say. And some women I have met, mostly the educated middle-
class ones - if you can believe it - tell me, 'Look at our heritage.
It is natural. Look at Krishna.'"

Well-known socialite Bina Ramani talks of her conversion to the fast-
growing creed of adultery: "I was shocked when I first came back to
India some years ago. Everybody seemed to be having extramarital
affairs. You don't do that in the West. You have serial monogamy.
But I have changed my mind. If there is a Krishna in men, there is a
Radha in women. Why can't I be both: a wife and Radha? We are born
with it. Men are doing their Krishna thing, aren't they?"

Middle-class India is having a whale of a time, obviously. But it
must also beware. Not everybody is happy. Some spouses are hurt.
Detective agencies, particularly the new breed of cyber detectives,
are being flooded with requests for snooping on the activities and e-
mail accounts of married men and women. They are busy documenting
illicit affairs, hacking computers of married people engaged in such
affairs. Some agencies report having to deal with 10-15 new cases
every day. All for the convenience of divorce lawyers who may need

Not surprisingly, divorce is rampant. About 5,000 divorces a year
are being reported from Haryana, with a population of 17 million. In
some cities, Kolkata for instance, the number of divorce cases has
doubled. A total of 13,037 divorce cases were filed in the city
between January and August last year, nearly double the number filed
in all of 1999. ...

Even in ancient India, though, at the height of its glory, there
were laws with similar contradictions. In fact the British jurists
who made our present laws based Hindu law on Manu-smriti, also known
as Manav-dharm-shastra (Laws of Manu), which ranks in its scriptural
sanctity with Ramayana and Mahabharata.

The laws of Manu provide a fascinating glimpse of the life and times
of ancient India and how people (other than Brahmins) tried to beat
the law even then to engage in adultery: "[Verse 352] If men persist
in seeking intimate contact with other men's wives, the king should
brand them with punishments that inspire terror and banish them.
[353] For that gives rise among people to the confusion of the
castes, by means of which irreligion, that cuts away the roots,
works for the destruction of everything.

"[3556] If a man speaks to another man's wife at a bathing place, in
a wilderness or a forest, or at the confluence or rivers, he incurs
[the guilt of] sexual misconduct. [357] Acting with special courtesy
to her, playing around with her, touching her ornaments or clothes,
sitting on a couch with her, are all traditionally regarded as
sexual misconduct. [358] If a man touches a woman in a non-place [a
place other than the hand], or allows himself to be touched by her,
with mutual consent, it is all traditionally regarded as sexual

"[359] A man who is not a Brahmin deserves to be punished by the
loss of his life's breath for sexual misconduct, for the wives of
all four castes should always be protected to the utmost. [360]
Beggars, panegyrists, men who have been consecrated for a Vedic
sacrifice, and workmen may carry on a conversation with other men's
wives if they are not prohibited [from doing so by the scriptures].
[361] But a man who has been prohibited should not carry on a
conversation with other men's wives; if a man who has been
prohibited converses [with them], he should pay a fine of one gold

"[362] This rule does not apply to the wives of strolling actors or
of men who live off their own [wives]; for these men have their
women embrace [other men], concealing themselves while they have
them do the act. [363] But just a very small fine should be paid by
a man who carries on a conversation secretly with these women, or
with menial servant girls who are used by only one man, or with
wandering women ascetics."

India rediscovers kama

When sex gets out of the cupboard
By Siddharth Srivastava

NEW DELHI - It is an episode that has stirred the roots of Indian
society: two senior students of a prestigious private school in
Delhi indulged in an intimate sexual act in the chemistry
laboratory. In the age of adolescent sex and uninterrupted Internet
access, this should not be unnatural or untoward, even in a
predominantly conservative society such as India, except for one
detail. Earlier, such sexual encounters - whether it be school sex
or children exposed to pornography on the Internet, in magazines or
videos - formed part of informed discussions and intellectual debate
on how best to tackle the issue.

This time there is a difference. The boy happened to possess a
camera cell phone, and without the knowledge of the girl, recorded
the proceedings, passed them on to a few friends to show off his
exploits, who in turn forwarded them to a few more, forming an
endless chain, with the said two-and-a-half-minute clip now being
sold on the Internet and becoming the hottest-selling compact disc
(CD) at Delhi's Palika Bazaar, where all such stuff is sold.

It is certainly not the first time that teenagers have indulged in
sex, but the fact that everybody can see it happening has, as would
be expected, created a different impact. The reactions that have
engulfed almost everybody who can be heard have been to blame
somebody. The boy and girl in question have been suspended from
school, so have been the boy's friends who received the clip. Others
have blamed the school administration for allowing students to carry
cellular phones, and those too with a camera. Parents who indulge
their wards by buying cell phones for them too are the culprits. The
government, which has been lax in coaxing schools to keep students
in check, has been blamed. Most important, it is the use and abuse
of technology that progresses at a rapid pace, opening young minds
to detrimental effects, that have come under the glare.

More have talked about the decadence of Indian culture and values in
the face of the aggressive import and copying of the liberal
sections of people, such as in the West, who do not set the best
example to youngsters around the world. Then there is the all-
encompassing satellite television and the film industry to be
pointed at. In short, everybody is lashing out at somebody for an
episode that may not be as unnatural as it has been made out to be.

In the seamier world at Palika Bazaar, on the other hand, business
is brisk as more and more clips come into circulation. There are
reports of employees having caught their colleagues in the act, a
manager and his secretary purportedly from a major multinational,
bathroom and bedroom scenes, honeymooning couples ... the school
episode has opened a virtual Pandora's box of sexually explicit
clips now making the rounds, recorded on the sly by youngsters and
amateur cameramen out to make a fast buck, with or without the
knowledge of the partner.

When sex gets out of the cupboard


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